Clearing Out the Old Before the New Can Step In
There is a magical moment before things in our world shifts onto a new path, hopefully a more authentic one. It is a moment of calm; of stillness; of very little if I’m being entirely honest. It is also a time when the fears can creep in- ‘why am I not doing more‘, ‘why have I been cancelling plans and not showing up as much‘, ‘I should be doing this, I should be doing that‘. Chances are you have been inadvertently opening up space to allow the new life to unfold; but us, being us, we put labels and judgements on it. Blaming ourselves for not showing up as we are conditioned to believe we should, blaming others for cancelling, worried that our business is going south because our clients have gone quiet, and our responsibilities have been drying up. When we put our judgements and limiting beliefs on these events we can quickly send ourselves into a fear spiral or allow anxiety to take over. The reality of the matter is, however, that you are being guided. Guided to take a pause before your next steps and to be present with some of those long standing beliefs that simply won’t serve you in the next level of development that you are about to reach.
These spaces of time can last a few weeks to a few months, even a few years if you are determined to hold yourself there. They can feel dark, lonely and even hopeless. Where there is no desire to go backwards but also no interest in what is ahead. But one thing I can promise you is that this time is pregnant with deep emotions. So we have the choice- we can numb ourselves off to these emotions and keep ourselves held in no-mans land for far longer than is comfortable, or we can ask what these emotions are trying to reveal to us. What are they trying to teach us for this next phase of our life. Maybe they showing us there is unprocessed anger and our need to set firmer boundaries, maybe the loneliness reveals that we have been unwilling to connect to others deeply for fear of getting hurt, perhaps there are deep levels of grief desperate to be acknowledged and felt.
When we are willing to ask these questions of our emotions, in this space, we see how quickly we begin to shift through this ‘dead space‘ and new opportunities, relationship and friendships present themselves - often to test what we have learnt and if we are now willing to put them into practice. Life begins to feel vibrant again.
So when you are being slowed down at every corner and every interaction remind yourself that the universe is asking you to pause, then investigate and take this magnificent opportunity to finally work through emotions you’ve been hiding away for far too long.
Practical points:
Consider this a clear out, a life refresh, and treat it as such
Look at your home/work space - what can be cleared out, donated or sold
Deep clean- Cleaning is energetically incredibly important, including those unused corners circulating stuck energy or places you frequent most and hold the most energy such as your bed or favourite comfy chair
Notice what commitments you’ve made and see if they all still feel right to you, this is a time to be ruthless about what feels right to you, even if there is no logical sense to the pattern of it
Pay attention to the relationships you’re in and the pattern of communication you have with these people, it is ok to step back from ones that feel unsafe in this particularly vulnerable moment
